More Than Resolutions
The start of a new year often feels like a clean slate — a time to make plans, set goals, and picture a better version of ourselves. But willpower alone isn’t always enough. Sometimes, old emotions, self-doubt, or patterns of avoidance quietly steer us back toward what’s familiar, even when it no longer serves us.
EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can help you do more than set goals — it helps you become emotionally aligned with the version of you who can achieve them.
Why Motivation Fades
Many people start the year strong and then lose momentum, not because they’re lazy or unmotivated, but because their nervous system associates change with stress or failure. Past experiences — even subtle ones — can create automatic emotional responses like anxiety, perfectionism, or avoidance when facing something new.
EMDR helps your brain update these emotional “files,” so your goals stop triggering old fear responses and start feeling truly attainable.
Resourcing for the Future You
In EMDR, resourcing is the phase where you strengthen your internal supports before tackling deeper processing work. But it’s also a powerful way to build emotional endurance for your future goals.
During resourcing, your therapist helps you:
- Connect with calm, capable parts of yourself that handle challenges with balance
- Strengthen focus, confidence, and follow-through
- Create positive anchors — visualizations or sensations linked to motivation and success
- Envision future goals through the lens of self-trust, not pressure
With bilateral stimulation (like eye movements or tapping), these positive internal states become more deeply wired in your brain — turning them from fleeting ideas into felt experiences you can access anytime.
Creating Sustainable Change
Instead of fighting with your brain to “try harder,” EMDR helps your nervous system feel safe succeeding. That shift changes everything — it quiets the part of you that expects disappointment and strengthens the part that knows how to keep showing up.
This kind of reset allows you to:
- Stay grounded when goals feel overwhelming
- Rebuild confidence after past setbacks
- Approach growth with calm determination rather than burnout
Start the Year with Emotional Alignment
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EMDR is recognized by the World Health Organization and the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs as an effective treatment for trauma and PTSD.
Tara Murphy is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Licensed Alcohol and Drug Counselor (LADC) with over 25 years of experience in the field of behavioral health. She is EMDR-certified and owns a private practice in Wallingford, Connecticut, where she provides trauma-informed therapy for adults. Her work focuses on developmental trauma, anxiety, identity loss, and emotionally abusive relationship dynamics.